We Either Live...or Die

We Either Live...or Die
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Stop! Blaming Others For Your Life

We all know them—the whiners, the cry-babies, those that blame others for their miserable lives.

Alas, seemingly they were born like this. So, most of the time, the best we can do is either just listen, walk away or simply roll our eyes.

Otherwise, trying to help them is apparently futile, because most of the time it’s just too late—their childhoods, parents and DNA have had their sway, and now, you’ve got to deal with it.

Unfortunately, I still believe there is hope.

I still find myself saying, “Gosh darn it good people get a hold of yourself! Stop! eating that ice cream. Stop! dating him—or—forget her. Stop! smoking. And most of all, stop blaming others for your misery.”

We’ve all got one thing in common when it comes to our misery, our pain and suffering, our unhappiness—we each, ultimately, have the power to be happy, change our circumstances and ultimately, control the outcomes of our lives.

We may not be able to change our lives today, or tomorrow even, but —

If we diligently apply ourselves and see the stumbles as steps forward; and still muster the courage to step forward to risk falling, time and time again;

If we take others’ barbs and not jibe back in return, and still weigh the merit of their words;

If we recognize that the ills of the world begin at home and accept that the responsibility for change begins with the awareness of and willingness to change ourselves;

Than, then, we’ll see that we only have ourselves to blame for the woes of our lives, and that if and when we make the effort, we might have the opportunity to take advantage of life’s inherent wonders.

For life is truly wonderful after all. The first step toward realizing this—is to see it that way. The second step toward experiencing it though—is making the effort.

We are born and then we either live or die; ultimately, the merit and quality of our lives depend upon which outcome we choose to embrace.

"...the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not our circumstances."
— Martha Washington —